My husband Anton and I were both thrilled and terrified at the news that we were expecting our third child. Having already lost two extremely premature little boys, the probability of delivering another premmie was high, with no clear medical explanation as to why.
Gabrielle spent 14 weeks, or 98 days in the Waikato NICU, a terrifying time for Anton and I. Gabrielle’s life hung in the balance in her first hours and days, and her long term survival was not clear for many weeks. Because of her size and fragility, that first skin to skin cuddle that all new parents so look forward to was an almost 2 month wait away, and only lasted a few precious minutes, in the midst of a tangle of tubes, monitors and alarms. The experience was made all the harder for Anton and I with no local family and few local friends to lend their support.
The care Gabrielle, Anton and I received from the NICU staff was incredible, and in my opinion, lifesaving for us all. What would have helped tremendously, in the midst of the fear and anxiety, the self-blame and traumatic stress, would have been the support of others who had experienced the same journey – a key reason why Anton and I became involved with The Neonatal Trust when it was first established in the Waikato.
Gabrielle is now a lively, curious, energetic 8 year old running rings around Anton and I. We are eternally grateful to the phenomenal antenatal and NICU staff who, despite often overwhelming odds, have given us the priceless gift of an exceptional, happy and healthy child.
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- Skin to skin ‘Kangaroo Cuddles‘ are great for both your baby and also the parents.
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